Wednesday, February 22, 2012

Does Islam allow befriending a non-mehram?

Assalam oalaikum,

Allah (swt) has not given the permission to do friendship with non-mehrams but nowadays people make friends at the drop of a hat. This is a satanic thing. Satan wants the people to disobey Allah (swt) because he is their enemy but people do not understand this. Allah (SWT) says in the holy Quran:

If any of you have not the means wherewith to wed free believing women, they may wed believing girls from among those whom your right hands possess: And Allah hath full knowledge about your faith. Ye are one from another: Wed them with the leave of their owners, and give them their dowers, according to what is reasonable: They should be chaste, not lustful, nor taking paramours: when they are taken in wedlock, if they fall into shame, their punishment is half that for free women. This (permission) is for those among you who fear sin; but it is better for you that ye practise self-restraint. And Allah is Oft-forgiving, Most Merciful.

surah nisa verse no 25

30Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: And Allah is well acquainted with all that they do.

31And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband's fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hands possess, or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex; and that they should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments. And O ye Believers! turn ye all together towards Allah, that ye may attain Bliss.
surah noor verse no 30,31

59O Prophet! Tell thy wives and daughters, and the believing women, that they should cast their outer garments over their persons (when abroad): that is most convenient, that they should be known (as such) and not molested. And Allah is Oft- Forgiving, Most Merciful.
surah ahzab verse no 59

53 O ye who believe! Enter not the Prophet's houses,- until leave is given you,- for a meal, (and then) not (so early as) to wait for its preparation: but when ye are invited, enter; and when ye have taken your meal, disperse, without seeking familiar talk. Such (behaviour) annoys the Prophet: he is ashamed to dismiss you, but Allah is not ashamed (to tell you) the truth. And when ye ask (his ladies) for anything ye want, ask them from before a screen: that makes for greater purity for your hearts and for theirs. Nor is it right for you that ye should annoy Allah.s Messenger, or that ye should marry his widows after him at any time. Truly such a thing is in Allah.s sight an enormity.
surah ahzab verse no 53

Nor come nigh to adultery: for it is a shameful (deed) and an evil, opening the road (to other evils).

surah al isra verse no 32


Narrated Hazrat Jabir (R.A) that one day I asked Huzur (saws) that what I should do if my eyes happen to fall upon a non-mehram woman, all of a sudden? Huzur (saws) replied, “Look in some other direction”.




33 comments:

Anonymous said...

Hello Sir,

I love a guy.
I love him like anything. he doesn't care for me. No respect no care
no love in returns. I spent my six years with him. but now these days
he became Rich. So he always show his attitude, his ego.
But like another fools, I can't live without him as i have tried a
lot. so please as you give a chance of free Spell.. plz you do any
magic so that he get convinced to make a phone call to me . so that he
wont control his emotion to make me a call.
Plz Plz Plz help me out.... I have already lost my MOM, have lost him
also..he is the only mantle sport for me.Now nothing is there, no any
relation is there in my life. But want to get him back in my life. plz
do something.I am feeling very helpless. Alife seems
very difficult to live.. trust me
Tell me any solution Sir, any tantra/ Mantra so that he start dreaming
of me, attract toward me.. I won't harm him anyway,.... Just love ,
priority, attention I am expecting from his side.. he is rude. dats
why, I am dying every hour..

Anonymous said...

Salam, i read about you online i am in this problem where i love this guy a lot and everything was fine we were supposed to get married next week but i confronted him over him not taking out time to talk to me. Hes always busy and doesnt even call me so when i confronted him he got upset and we broke up. I really love him and want to marry him please help me. I am a single mother and always find difficulty finding a loyal guy but when ever i start talking to a guy something goes wrong. Please i am tired of disappointments and just want to settle down and not commit any zana. Please help me i really want to marry this guy buy we are not talking anymore. Please help me!!! Thank you!

Mariam said...

Salam my name is mariam and i really love this muslim boy who belongs from the same family caste as me. He also loved me for like 2 years but idk why his mood swings are really bad and now he just stopped talking to me . my family found out and my mom said if he comes to my house for my rishtah we will agree and now i want any wazifa or dua to get him back to me and inshallah come to my parents house for my rishtah. Please can u give me any wazifa or dua in which he will come back to me and ask for my hand . Was salam . Please respond asap i am very much worried .

shazma said...

I am in need of help desperately am in love with my partner I no they love me to but find it hardto express there feelings for me which is causing arguments between us . I want to spend the rest of my life with them I really can't live without them .
And also do you help in other matters to ?
Please if u could reply to me asap I be very grateful.
Jazakallah

anum said...

Asalamalaikum Amel,

Hope you are well. I was reading something on google as I typed in 'how to make someone fall in love with you islamically' and some things that you had put up about that came up. I am very confused because I don't understand neither of what you've written. What is the amal of love and talisman of love. What do these things mean and you mentioned something about it backfiring, how is this possible? I have been with someone for more than a year and am constantly making dua that he loves me because I have fallen in love with him and see no other. Recently over a month ago me and him broke up and I have always felt that I have fallen in love with him more than he has for me and is why it was easier for him to break up with me whereas I'm the one who has been having thoughts of harming myself and been utterly destrought. I want to get married to him and want him to get back with me, fall in love with me.

You mentioned ' I have given the moakkil amal that has Alwi moakkil behind them. The alwi moakkils do not tolerate any type of nonsense and if they get agitated then they can cause irreversible damage to the person doing the amal. ' whay does this mean. Who are alwi moakkil? I don't want to do this spell wrong and put myself in a mess. Does this method involve the power of jinns? I love the guy dearly and think about him a million times in a day and so woukd really appreciate the help.

Could you please explain in simple steps what I must do in order for him to fall in love with me. You mentioned burning a piece of paper with his and my name on it and it coming to effect wothin 30 minutes. But I am unclear on this method and would like further advice. Please help me out.

Jazakallah khair.

saimul said...

Assalam walaikum, i love a girl madly and i want to marry her, she is very nice and i cant live without her. i read da taweez dat u posted everything’s ok bt i dnt get to meet the girl, bt i do have her photo so after preparing da water can i put her photo in it?? will it work?? plz suggest me a way i love her alot and want her to b my life partner, i swear i just want to marry her, she is the perfect one for me plz help.................saimul

Anonymous said...

Gud morning. I had a boyfriend. We were like perfect couples. Due to some misunderstandings he brokeup with me. I cleared evrything bt he says he does not love me. He hates me now. I tried vashikaran but it ws of no use. I will kill myslf. I cant live without him. I want him back as soon as possible. I want him forever. I want to marry him. I cant imagine my life without him. Plz do something most powerful to get him back in my life.

ammar said...

Assalam o Alequm
I read your article about a wazifa for getting someone one to love you back. I am wondering if you can guide me through the process and permit me as well to perform the wazifa. I assure you that my intentions are pure towards that person and don't want to harm her in any way possible.
Hoping for a quick reply.

Anonymous said...

assalam oalaikum,

i was in love with this boy...we have known each other for 2 years now..
2 years ago he told me that he really loves me a lot and he wanted to get married to me..we were in a relation and suddenly one day he left me without letting me know...(around after 5 months)..and i couldnt contact him in anyway..after that i came to know that i was pregnant..i somehow tried to inform him...he told me to get it aborted..i was 2 and a half month pregnant at tht time..i realy realy loved him always...after 6 months he came back to me..he apologised and he said that he loves me and he will not repeat his mistakes again n he will never leave me...i forgave him and got back with him coz i realy love him...after 20 days i was pregnant again..n he asked to kill this baby too...but our relation was ok...i was a hindu..and he is a muslim..he told me i should be a muslim if i have to get married to him..i believe in allah since many years..i became a muslim then...and then again we started having problems...n he left me again..what should i do? i really love him..i cannot live without him..he gave me so many dreams and then he left me..i want to get married to him..i just cry the whole day for he again cheated on me...what should i do? i love him..please help..what can i do to get him back in my life?
looking forward to your reply..!!

Sehrish said...

Salam Brother,
You have a wazaif on your page for ..is it necessary for the parents to do this? Can a unmarried girl to this as well? What can you suggest for a girl who is approaching a late age in marriage, what can she recite for marriage?
Is there a wazaifa for melting someone's heart who is cold and stone hearted?
Please brother help me. I will pray for you in my prayers.

Anonymous said...

Sir, Asalam o alaikum

Sir Please I know this issue which I'm going to discuss is very common to you but sir it's very serious I want to ask you about my marriage, from 2007 oct I love a girl who is a syedani & until now I do so,(I'm a non syed). Sir in between our parents came to know about us & so we left our home to get married but due to financial issues it was not possible, after that our parents agreed for our engagement but it did not happen & now as 6 years have passed, in between 2 years we had no contacts because our parents blocked our numbers & changed the houses. then again in 2009 Dec we met & her parents engaged her in the family but she still loved me. In short the same problem was repeated & until now we are not connected to each other & a few days back I came to know that her parents have made her Nikah with that boy.
Sir I'll be really thankful to you If you can arrange some thing, I want to get married to her & spend my whole life with her happily keeping her, her parents & my parents happy.

shabana said...

Salaam alaykum Amal,

Allah bless you with this good topic.
Can you please help meeee, i love a boy so much i cant stop thinking about him.. He is not interrest in me but now we dont have contact anymore but i want him.. What can i do to get him back plz amal help me..

I read about the soera taweez al falaq does this helped by anyone?

Im waiting for ur reply

rema said...

Hello,
I need a marriage spell that really works. Have been with this guy for years and my love to him grows up no matter what he does me. I can't breath air without him in my life. Plz help me keeping him in my life by making him marry me. Being with him forever is my only hope in life.

Anonymous said...

As salaam alaykum

I would like to request permission to recite the ism e azam ya wadudu dua for my fiance, with the pure intention of marriage.

I am facing a lot of difficulties at the moment, my marriage was arranged with my fiancee but in between the engagement period somebody did something to turn my heart away from his, and now he has ended the relationship but I have to marry him at all cost because we have been together for more than 1 year and I love him. I cannot be with another man now. My family is trying their best to patch things back up between both families again but he has to love me enough to agree to his families decision to marry me.

Please give me the permission to read this dua so that i can create love in his heart for me again. I will wait for your reply.

Jazakhallah

Anonymous said...

As-Salam-Un-Alaikum,

Sir/Mam, I was a Hindu girl, 2 years back i got in a relation with a muslim boy, he told me about Islam and many other religious things, Now, m totally changed, I believe in Allah.
We were in a good relation,but i made some mistakes, now when he left me, i'm realizing my mistakes, but few days back he asked me to end this relationship. I begged him not to leave me, but he did not listned me. Reason for breaking up with me, what he told me, is that he cannot continue it. I am totally Lostttt right now, not getting any hope, feeling like i'll die without him... :'( :'( :'(

Since, i mentioned that i belong to a hindu family, I don't know to whom I should visit to have my Istikhara done. I request you Sir/ Mam to please help me and make dua for me to Allah'tala and perform Istikhara for me. I want your response soon.

My intention for performing Istikhara is that

1. "WILL HE COME BACK TO ME AGAIN", &

2. "SHOULD I WAIT FOR HIM TO COME BACK IN MY LIFE"

I will be really very thankful to you Sir/ Mam, it will be a great help for me if you will do this. This is a question of my life, because I never loved soooo much as much as i love him.

Anonymous said...

Aslamu Alaykum brother Amel.

My names Akeel - i was on your website reading through all the amal for certain problems. the amal of Talisman of love i was hopeing to do this amal for the problem im having in my life. the question is do i have to print these out in very small paper and burn them after every namaz?

Please get back to me i would appreciate your help.

Anonymous said...

Assalamualaikum
I was googling in search of help when I came across what you adviced of reading 10,000 sura falaq.
My husband does not love me and has left me for another women. He has not only abandoned me but our two children also,who are thirteen year old girl and ten year old son.
He does not even care about the kids when they ill.
Over one year kids don't go school or madressa
We are very well to do and the money had come from my parents side and I had invested in properties but he had beat me up and made me sign it to him.
Please help me for him to return to his family and make all normal.
I am sitting pennyless and have just turned to Allah.
I wanted to ask you this tasbeeh of ten thousand surah falaq can my daughter help me to pray?
Please reply ASAP
Also if there is anything else u know that can help me PLEASE HELP,I'm in desperate need of it
Shalzin

Anonymous said...

Salam Shaikh, I love this girl and she used to love me, but she said she does not love me now.

Wallahi I love her and I need her back. My whole life I have never wanted to get married, but when I found her, I had to get married to her. I love her very much.

WE HAVE NOT done zina, I want to marry her. She used to love me, wallahi she did.

I met her last year, but I made her mad and she stopped communicating with me, then after several months I found her again shaikh, we talked, but the past week she said she will not marry me because shes mad at me a lot, REALLY mad at me, today she said she will not talk to me anymore.

Please shaikh, PLEASE make a dua for me so she loves me again and does not marry anyone else shaikh. PLEASE, PLEASE help me, then insha Allah Allah will reward you. Please.

Will she come back to me insha Allah and marry me?

What wazifa can I do? how many times? how many days? I need something fast, I am worried she may marry someone else or get engaged to someone else.

Can you please make the dua and wazifa for me, your more pious then me, Allah will accept it insha Allah.

Salam

Anonymous said...

Dear sir

Hope you are well, I have just been on your website and have been touched with the vast knowledge and advice on your site. It truly is amazing and heart felt. The sincerity is felt whilst reading through which is not felt on other websites and because of this I felt I could share a personal problem with yourself. I agree with yourself that a relationship between a male and female should not be of boyfriend and girlfriend but of husband and wife. I therefore would like to ask yourself that in circumstances where someone does not know how to read Arabic is there a taweez u can email me that I can use to make my male friend fall in love and marry me as I want a sincere life time commitment of marriage and not any other kind of relationship with him

Your help and advise will be mostly and sincerely appreciated

Anonymous said...

Assalamo Alaikum brother,

The person I love used to love me and take care of me really well, in fact he was the one who came into my life first and expressed that he loved me. He is a Christian boy. He only said that he wanted to marry me and wanted to be with me. We had a huge fight and got separated 2 months ago. Now he says that he doesn't want to be in any relationship right now because it hurts a lot. I still feel that he loves me, but is either too scared to be back in the relationship or is very angry with me because he also has been literally crying ever since we got separated. He is not understanding any of his faults though.

I want to marry him, and don't have any other intentions in my mind, but only if he accepts Islam. But for that I really want to get back with him, I really miss him and am unable to live without him. Also cannot marry him immediately even if something happens because we have to get settled in our lives and careers first. But really wish to marry him. Can I do your "The amal of love with the help of Surah Falaq taweez" or "The talisman of love" to get him back in my life? Please respond soon, am very depressed and am unable to do anything right now. Cannot eat or sleep even for past two months.

aisha said...

Salaam alikum I seriously need ur help I like one boy we are family friends his whole family likes me even my family and I like him but this boy he is not taking any interest in me even though he doesn't have any girl in his life

AFREEN said...

sir my name is AFREEN ...i love someone very deeply we had a very cute couple till the srting of this year...but from this year srting he started ignoring me....and finally he left me......i love him very deeply....i tried hard to forget him but couldnot make it...........i want him...i want that he should realize his mistake and propose me for marriage infront of whole world...pls tell me this how this happened becz in that spell u said water has to be drink by the person...hez not with me..........pls help me..........in the name of ALLAH hez almighty......may be peace be on u....sir........pls help me thanku..........reply me as soon as possible.....

Anonymous said...

I need your help, i need a love spell to bring back my lover to me, because he took some distance since several weeks. what can i do to bring him back?

Anonymous said...

Salam ... I have been told to do the " Ya wadudu " wazifa to make the guy I love fall in love with me and my question is ... I hve college from 8:30 till 4:30 and I always miss my dhuhr , asr and sometimes fajr Namaz but whenever I come home I pray dhuhr qaza then straight away I pray asr qaza after it and maghrib sometimes if I miss it but since I want to do the wazifa do I hve to recite " Ya wadudu " 300 times after im done my dhuhr qaza and then I do pray my asr qaza and recite 300 times again .. Because I hve heard u can't do wazifa in qaza

Ali said...

asallam I love with a girl and She loves me I wanted to get married with Her and she wanted as well. But our family doesn't wanted. I want her to comes to me. We been togather for 2 years. But last 3 month ago her family took her phone of from her now no Cantact nothing. if We get married our both family well be togather agian and we will get married as well. Please help me I am in a bad stress jazakallah

Anonymous said...


Asalam Alikum sir
Iwant friend ship with A girl.I like him but me have no confidence talk to girl.
So please tell me wazifa about it.

Anonymous said...

Dear Shaykh,

Assalaamu Alaikkum Wa Rahmathullah

Bismillah - Alhamdhulillah - Assalaathu Assalaamu Ala Rasoolillah

I have a situation here, i am in love with a pious girl since 8 years. By Allah's will there were no sin no sin full talk. Now i said to my parents to make her marry with me. They refused due to location of girls home and culture (Its a local area). But as per my strong willing they went to girl's home to see her.
Unfortunately, everything went wrong. Now the situation is my parents hate the girl and their parents. I want to marry her. Please give me taweez to keep with me and change mind of my parents.

In sha Allah
Awaiting your response.

Junaid said...

Assalamu Aleykum,

I have read your blog and to be honest i feel you have a deep knowledge of ilms.

I am not sure if you help in this way, but my relationship has fallen off after a relationship of 3 years. We suddenly got into a fight over a small issue and everything ended.

Can you help me with this please.

Thanks

Anonymous said...

Hello sir,I'm a Bangladeshi Muslim(24 years). Here's a situation.I and my ex girlfriend were together with about for 3 years.But,about six months ago,she broke it up with me without showing any reason.Now,it seems that she hates for me which reason I don't know. She now tells me that it's ok to be friends but she doesn't love me and no intimacy.She's a girl whom a lot of boy likes and she also flirts with various guys.Perhaps,sees some of them.But,I love her very much from my heart and want her to be only with me.What should I do sir?Please,help me.

naeem said...

salam brother my problem is about my relation. At my workplace there was one girl she was non Muslim she become my friend and I fall in love with her . I really wanna marry her and make her muslim its my promise inshallah but a month gone I fight with her now she is upset and don't wanna talk to me. I spend too much money everyone saying she will be fine with in a week but nothing happen until now please if u can help with it. I can pay u money how much u want but once she back. thanks

shaikh said...

asalaamualaikum

i have read most of the spell but i wanted a very powerfull love spell to bring back my love as she is married and she cannot decide what to do now as we loved each other.

kindly help me out from this.

Sanjeev said...

Hi,

I love a girl very much, however she is getting married to someone in April, can you help in stopping there marriage and getting her to fall in love with me? Please advise ASAP as i am in a very bad state of mind

Thanks & regards
Sanjeev

muskan said...

Assalaam alaikum,
Dear brother in islam, i went through your blog on love spells. I want to burn the ta'aweez that you have asked to make prints of. But i cannot print it due to personal reasons. I have written it down in black pen. Is it okay to burn them? Also the man i want to marry is already married with 3 kids. I am a divorcee too. I am ready to be a second wife because this man is my first love. I loved him since i was kid.

JazakAllah khair
Your sister in islam.

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