Wednesday, February 22, 2012

love in islam

Assalam oalaikum,
There are many people who fall in love but they do not know about the concept of love in Islam. They do not know what Islam has to say about love. Islam allows only nikah. It does not allow befriending non-mehrams and going around with them. If you happen to fall in love with someone then the Islamic way is to do nikah with that person.

Allah talah says in quran

If ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly with the orphans, Marry women of your choice, Two or three or four; but if ye fear that ye shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one, or (a captive) that your right hands possess, that will be more suitable, to prevent you from doing injustice.

surah nisa verse no 3

If you like a girl/ woman, then send her a marriage proposal. Allah (swt) says in the Quran:

There is no blame on you if ye make an offer of betrothal or hold it in your hearts. Allah knows that ye cherish them in your hearts: But do not make a secret contract with them except in terms Honourable, nor resolve on the tie of marriage till the term prescribed is fulfilled. And know that Allah Knoweth what is in your hearts, and take heed of Him; and know that Allah is Oft-forgiving, Most Forbearing.

surah bakarah chaptorn o 2 verse no 235

Allah’s rasool Mohammad (SAWS) says that a momin looks for the following traits in his would-be wife:
Beauty
Wealth
Family background
A good character


Does Islam allow befriending a non-mehram?

Assalam oalaikum,

Allah (swt) has not given the permission to do friendship with non-mehrams but nowadays people make friends at the drop of a hat. This is a satanic thing. Satan wants the people to disobey Allah (swt) because he is their enemy but people do not understand this. Allah (SWT) says in the holy Quran:

If any of you have not the means wherewith to wed free believing women, they may wed believing girls from among those whom your right hands possess: And Allah hath full knowledge about your faith. Ye are one from another: Wed them with the leave of their owners, and give them their dowers, according to what is reasonable: They should be chaste, not lustful, nor taking paramours: when they are taken in wedlock, if they fall into shame, their punishment is half that for free women. This (permission) is for those among you who fear sin; but it is better for you that ye practise self-restraint. And Allah is Oft-forgiving, Most Merciful.

surah nisa verse no 25

30Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: And Allah is well acquainted with all that they do.

31And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what (must ordinarily) appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husband's fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women, or the slaves whom their right hands possess, or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex; and that they should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments. And O ye Believers! turn ye all together towards Allah, that ye may attain Bliss.
surah noor verse no 30,31

59O Prophet! Tell thy wives and daughters, and the believing women, that they should cast their outer garments over their persons (when abroad): that is most convenient, that they should be known (as such) and not molested. And Allah is Oft- Forgiving, Most Merciful.
surah ahzab verse no 59

53 O ye who believe! Enter not the Prophet's houses,- until leave is given you,- for a meal, (and then) not (so early as) to wait for its preparation: but when ye are invited, enter; and when ye have taken your meal, disperse, without seeking familiar talk. Such (behaviour) annoys the Prophet: he is ashamed to dismiss you, but Allah is not ashamed (to tell you) the truth. And when ye ask (his ladies) for anything ye want, ask them from before a screen: that makes for greater purity for your hearts and for theirs. Nor is it right for you that ye should annoy Allah.s Messenger, or that ye should marry his widows after him at any time. Truly such a thing is in Allah.s sight an enormity.
surah ahzab verse no 53

Nor come nigh to adultery: for it is a shameful (deed) and an evil, opening the road (to other evils).

surah al isra verse no 32


Narrated Hazrat Jabir (R.A) that one day I asked Huzur (saws) that what I should do if my eyes happen to fall upon a non-mehram woman, all of a sudden? Huzur (saws) replied, “Look in some other direction”.




Does Islam allow pre-marital sex?

Assalam oalaikum,

Islam strictly forbids pre-marital sex between a man and a woman. Allah (SWT) says in the holy Quran:

21 O ye who believe! follow not Satan's footsteps: if any will follow the footsteps of Satan, he will (but) command what is shameful and wrong: and were it not for the grace and mercy of Allah on you, not one of you would ever have been pure: but Allah doth purify whom He pleases: and Allah is One Who hears and knows (all things).

Surah noor chaptor no 24 verse no 21
68 They said: "Beseech on our behalf Thy Lord to make plain to us what (heifer) it is!" He said; "He says: The heifer should be neither too old nor too young, but of middling age. Now do what ye are commanded!"

Surah bakarah verse no 68

5Who abstain from sex,
surah al muminoon chaptor no 23 verse no 5

Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for them: And Allah is well acquainted with all that they do.

surah noor chaptor no 24 verse no 30


32Nor come nigh to adultery: for it is a shameful (deed) and an evil, opening the road (to other evils).

surah al isra chaptor no 17 verse no 32

What should those people do who have committed pre-marital sex?

Assalam oalaikum,
There are many people who indulge in pre-marital sex. Most of them do it knowing well that it is a sin Islam. There might be only a few who are unaware about the Islamic laws regarding pre-marital sex. By the way, whoever has committed this sin, whether knowingly or unknowingly, should ask Allah (swt) for forgiveness because Allah (swt) is very merciful and pardons our sins. There are a plethora of cases in the present times where the girls are being taken for a ride by the boys, who promise them with marriage. The boys take advantage of the gullibility of the girls and have sexual relations with them. Once their lust fizzles out they leave the girls in a lurch.
I keep receiving a lot of mails in which the girls have got a raw deal at the hands of their so-called lovers, who proposed them and then left them after using them physically.
Such fraud guys keep the girls hooked for a long time, all the while promising them marriage and making lame excuses for the delay.
Many of the mails that I receive are from girls who are pinning their hopes on those fraud guys and crave for them to return. They become emotional about those crooks and do not want to marry elsewhere. They lose their virginity to those cheat lovers so they feel apprehensive of getting married to someone else, lest their beans get spilled. Allah (swt) says about such people in the Quran:

26Women impure are for men impure, and men impure for women impure and women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity: these are not affected by what people say: for them there is forgiveness, and a provision honourable.
surah noor chaptor no 24 verse no 26

The only way to repent of this sin is to ask Allah (swt) for forgiveness. Only then will the person get released from this life-long tension.
Allah (swt) says in the Quran:

16If two men among you are guilty of lewdness, punish them both. If they repent and amend, Leave them alone; for Allah is Oft-returning, Most Merciful.
Surah nisa verse no 16
So all of you, who are in love! Get married because this is an Islamic way. If you do not follow this way then satan will make you a sinner and your life will become complicated. A few moments of pleasure will ruin the happiness and peace of your lifetime. This is not a good bargain. So do not listen to satan who is your worst enemy and prefer to get married rather than having girlfriends.


Does Islam permit going around with one’s fiancée or a non-mehram

Assalam oalaikum,
Islam does not allow free mingling of the opposite sex and also does not permit going around with a non-mehram or a fiancé.
Prophet Mohammad (SAWS) says that, ‘Do not leave girls and boys alone because satan is always on the prowl”.
Watch this video
These days it is quite common to go out on a date. Girls and boys freak out and spend time together. In some cases the boys try to woo the girls or else they may try to paint the town red with an arm candy besides them. Whatever the intention but Islam does not permit this type of freedom. It is satan who entices the youngsters to do all this but they do not understand. They feel that all this is the in-thing and they should also be doing it to be considered hip in their social circle. Watch this video also.
As far as choosing their future spouse is concerned Islam allows it. The girl and the boy can meet but the girl should have a veil.
If the girl has to meet the boy then she can do so and talk to him also. However the boy’s family should also be present. Islam also allows meeting more than once but within the purview of Islam. Meeting the future spouse is allowed in Islam so that the girl and the boy can make up their mind whether they approve of each other.

The conditions of the amal of love

Assalam oalaikum,
The amal of love have some conditions which need to be fulfilled.
You cannot do this amal of making a girl crazy about you just to get her in bed.
You cannot do this amal if your intention is merely to befriend a girl
You cannot do this amal to take revenge upon any girl
This amal cannot be done to break someone’s marriage
You cannot do this amal for any personal gain or for getting some particular work done through that girl.
This amal cannot be done to take the girl for a ride or to play with her emotions

In a nutshell this amal can be done only by those whose intentions are honorable. Men and women who plan to get married can do this amal. This blog has been created by keeping only those men and women in mind who intend to settle down in life. If the intentions are wrong then it is advisable not to do the amal because I have given the moakkil amal that has Alwi moakkil behind them. The alwi moakkils do not tolerate any type of nonsense and if they get agitated then they can cause irreversible damage to the person doing the amal. Therefore, think twice before doing this amal if the intentions are wrong.


The talisman of love


Assalam oalaikum,


I am giving a talisman of love that is very powerful. In fact it starts showing its positive effect within half an hour of being burnt.
Before all of you decide to do this amal, kindly go through my previous post:
Avoid doing this amal if you do not seriously intend to get married to someone otherwise you may end up getting harmed
The method is that you all will have to get this talisman printed. On the back side of the talisman write: AL-HOOB.FALA BIN FALA AL-HOOB FALA –BIN –FALA
In place of FALA.–BIN –FALA write the person’s name on whom this amal is meant to be done and then write his or her mother’s name.
If you want a woman to fall in love with you then write the woman’s name after the man’s name. On the other hand, if you want a man to fall in love with you then write the man’s name later and the woman’s first. While writing the names eat some sugar.
If you find all this difficult then for example, simply write, ‘OH-ALLAH, KINDLY MAKE RAZIA BINTE RASHIDA FALL IN LOVE WITH ASGHAR BIN BANO”. After writing this the talisman should be burnt after every namaz. This amal should be carried on till 11 days. Within this period your desire of making someone fall in love with you will be fulfilled, Inshallah.
However, if is advisable to carry on this amal till the time you succeed in doing nikah, i.e. till you target is achieved practically. After the nikah you can discontinue the amal.



The amal of love with the help of Surah Falaq taweez





Assalam oalaikum,
In order to do this amal successfully, you will have to take a print out of this taweez and recite Surah Falaq 10000 times and then blow over the taweez.
Whoever you want to fall in love with you, that person’s name should be written at the back of the taweez in this way:
AL-HOOB.FALA BIN FALA AL-HOOB FALA –BIN –FALA
In place of FALA.–BIN –FALA write the person’s name on whom this amal is meant to be done and then write his or her mother’s name.
If you want a woman to fall in love with you then write the woman’s name after the man’s name. On the other hand, if you want a man to fall in love with you then write the man’s name later and the woman’s first. While writing the names eat some sugar.
If you find all this difficult then for example, simply write, ‘OH-ALLAH, KINDLY MAKE RAZIA BINTE RASHIDA FALL IN LOVE WITH ASGHAR BIN BANO”. After this soak this taweez in water overnight. On the next day you will somehow have to make the person (whom you want to fall in love with you) drink it. You can also add the water to the food served to that person or else you can mix it with a cold drink that you offer to that person when that person pays a visit to your house. This amal has to be done only once. It shows effect within 3 days. If a person drinks the water spiritually energized with this taweez so he or she may start getting thoughts about falling in love with you from the same night. Only those people who intend to get married to someone are allowed to do this amal.


The amal of love with the help of Ism-e-Azam Ya Wadudu

Assalam oalaikum,
If you wish to make a particular person fall in love with you then you should recite Ya Wadudu 300 times after every namaz till 40 days. While doing this amal keep your objective in mind. You should keep a photograph of the desired person in front of you during the amal. Besides this, you should also think positively during the amal and visualize that the desired person is drawing nearer towards you; he or she is craving for you etc. Do not let any impure and obscene thoughts enter your mind during the amal, such as thoughts of sexual intercourse etc. You should eat something sweet before starting the amal, such as sugar. While you do this amal do not talk to anyone and keep the main aim of the amal in mind. You will get success within 40 days Inshallah.